It's important to set a platonic and positive tone. It will also give you some wiggle room to decide whether you'd want to hook up again, or you'd prefer to stay "just friends. Just get it all out there at once. At the end of the day, it all comes down to time, respect, kindness, and a determination not to make it weird. A Direct Message. Not Exactly Lonely. A public park during the day is another good option. But, it could have been a fluke thing, maybe he had an off night and you want to give it another go? Liked what you just read?
Don't have an account yet? Get the most out of your experience with a personalized all-access pass to everything local on events, music, restaurants, news and more. Choose the right person Not everyone you date or sleep with is going to be cut out to stay friends in the long run. Sure, that long-time significant other might seem like a good candidate to carry on a platonic relationship after the romance dies, but there are probably always going to be complicated emotions and drama between the two of you, no matter how clean the break is. On the other hand, the drunken one-night stand from last weekend might not exactly be marriage material, but the lack of emotional connection could lead to a less complicated friendship down the line. Be surface level friends for a little bit, and then work your way down, even if it feels like a step back from where you were while sleeping with the person. If not, it is now or drinking buddies. Make a financial contribution or sign up for a newsletter, and help us keep telling Phoenix's stories with no paywalls. Be on the same page One of the biggest hindrances of being friends with anyone can be when they secretly want to be more than friends with you. This problem is obviously way more likely to happen when there already once was a romantic or just sexual spark between the two of you.
Cuddling post-sex should be reserved only for someone you actually have a commitment with, not for hookups. Most people just want how to be friends after a hookup enjoy the last strains of ecstasy in silence; some would even turn their backs on you afterwards.
If you really want to at least talk to this person for a good few minutes, then steer the conversation away from personal stuff.
Like feelings. Or having kids. No, just no. Smoke, browse through Facebook, check Twitter, or do other things to pass the time, then get up, take a shower, and leave. Give them a peck on the cheek before you disappear, though. Emphasis on one sentence. Okay, so some may ask you to rate their performance or even go into a blow-by-blow detail of what they liked most about the stuff that you just did.
Go to sleep, will you. Or go back to work, if it happened midday. If they were already your friend before getting it on, then all good — stay friends. But if, prior to the hookup, they were just an acquaintance or someone you met from Tinder or other check this out dating app, then stay away until the next sack session, that is.
Practice total detachment because some hookups tend to teeter on the dangerous edge of what we call feelings.
And we all know that it gets real messy from there. Otherwise, feel free to do it again. Geneve is always in search of beautiful stories to tell and exciting experiences to share. She wishes to travel back Ari grieves the loss of her sister deeply, yet she resists visiting the island resort where traumatic memories are repressed.
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